Is It That You Should Or That You Want To?

"I should"

​Does that ever come out of your mouth?

​I should post...

I should write my newsletter like this...
I should work after the kids go to bed...
I should want to stay at home with my kids...
I should create my offer like this...
I should be trying to climb the corporate ladder...

​Does this resonate?

​Where does the should come from?

​Does it come from the voice inside that's like, okay let's do this and finish it so we can move ourselves along?

​Or does it come from what we feel we should be doing because it's what we see others doing?

​Woof.

​For me, it's sometimes both. And to be really honest I may or may not actually take the time to decipher where it's coming from. It's go go go and I look up and think, wait? WTF! Where am I?

​I'm working with an energy and alignment coach right now and this is my current focus. But, as I work on it I notice this conversation coming up in coaching sessions and laid-back coffee meetings.

​There is some curiosity around it. A "What if I didn't follow the should, but followed the this lights me up.".

​And I definitely don't feel like this is easy work. For me, it's a lot of unlearning, Looking at what success means for me right now in this season.

​Do I want all that money in the bank? Oh yeah. But, do I want to soak up time with Gracie? Oh yeah.

​There are so many "I shoulds" that come with both of those. It's getting curious about each one that comes up.

​So, no actual business tips per se but just a lot of reflecting. Which is just as important as a posting schedule or a nurtureing sequence. But, often not actually done.

​Are you having and I shoulds? If not, I commend you on running on what's true to you! If you do, please take some time to get curious and see what they are and where they're coming from.